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People can get in our way. They can be aggressive and can get envious. Some can really do serious harm to us.
But so we can also find the peace we desire; it is our duty to do good to them and put up with them.
Is it that hard?
Yes.
Why?
It is not just that they can do those things to us. Every day we see people do harmful or destructive things to others. You know someone who flirts while their partner is not around. Another one is being rude to a waiter. A government official is cheating on his taxes. One of your coworkers is being toxic and pulling the team down. Dealing with these every day is taxing and exhausting.
And it goes the same with ourselves. There are times when we become that person. The one who makes the life of others around us harder than it should be.
When we exhibit unprofessionalism, show rudeness, bask in gossiping, backstabbing, or spew false information, we become prisoners of these destructive behaviors.
How can we better act with this challenge?
With people we find challenging to deal with, thinking that they are the primary victims of their toxic behavior can be a big help. Think that, whether they are fully aware of them or not, people who hurt another also hurt themselves as they do it.
As we said earlier, we can also fall victim to destructive traits. Being aware of our own negative conduct is valuable in here, as we ought to recognize that we need to improve.
As we see people with destructive traits, we notice the ones we do not like about them, and that can help us avoid them. It reminds us of the principles and ideals we have. We see where they make mistakes so we can learn not to make them ourselves.
We avoid those toxic and destructive personalities.
Seeing where others make missteps can lead to us seeing our own failures in our dispositions. It is like a mirror where we can see who we really are and what needs changing.
Whenever we encounter people whom we feel might wreck a fine day we are having, always remember: they are not really causing us any problems.
What they do is give us an opportunity. A window of prospect where we learn to improve how we deal with every person we meet.
A chance to learn, check on ourselves, and correct what is needed to be corrected.
It gives us an opportunity to be kinder, to be more forgiving, to be more tolerant, to be a better person than what we were yesterday and even just a moment ago.
Why?
It is not just that they can do those things to us. Every day we see people do harmful or destructive things to others. You know someone who flirts while their partner is not around. Another one is being rude to a waiter. A government official is cheating on his taxes. One of your coworkers is being toxic and pulling the team down. Dealing with these every day is taxing and exhausting.
And it goes the same with ourselves. There are times when we become that person. The one who makes the life of others around us harder than it should be.
When we exhibit unprofessionalism, show rudeness, bask in gossiping, backstabbing, or spew false information, we become prisoners of these destructive behaviors.
How can we better act with this challenge?
With people we find challenging to deal with, thinking that they are the primary victims of their toxic behavior can be a big help. Think that, whether they are fully aware of them or not, people who hurt another also hurt themselves as they do it.
As we said earlier, we can also fall victim to destructive traits. Being aware of our own negative conduct is valuable in here, as we ought to recognize that we need to improve.
As we see people with destructive traits, we notice the ones we do not like about them, and that can help us avoid them. It reminds us of the principles and ideals we have. We see where they make mistakes so we can learn not to make them ourselves.
We avoid those toxic and destructive personalities.
Seeing where others make missteps can lead to us seeing our own failures in our dispositions. It is like a mirror where we can see who we really are and what needs changing.
Whenever we encounter people whom we feel might wreck a fine day we are having, always remember: they are not really causing us any problems.
What they do is give us an opportunity. A window of prospect where we learn to improve how we deal with every person we meet.
A chance to learn, check on ourselves, and correct what is needed to be corrected.
It gives us an opportunity to be kinder, to be more forgiving, to be more tolerant, to be a better person than what we were yesterday and even just a moment ago.
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